Sugar Yum Yum


The Sugar Monster's bits & pieces.

I ♥ sushi, dinosaurs, fat/body/self acceptance, tattoos, mixed drinks, monsters, robots, kissing, British TV, and cephalopods. Born and raised in Los Angeles, adjusting to life in the dirrrrty south. This is what I currently look like.

I have a real blog where I never shut up and a twitter feed that's mostly food, sex, booze, and TV.

Most of my posts/reblogs involve: fat, feminism,cute animals, and TV. Sometimes there are naked people and/or sex toys! You have been warned!

I aim for anti-misogyny, anti-racism, anti-transphobia, anti-homophobia... (general anti-assholism) but sometimes fail. If you have the energy, I appreciate being called on my mistakes and bullshit!

Feel free to ask anything you'd like!

This practice of shaming people into behaving a certain way or using certain language does not truly address the underlying inclination; it does not unpack the thinking that allowed that speaker to feel entitled to say those things in the first place. Fear can be an effective motivator, but it’s not often a productive one, if our goal is broad and lasting cultural change.

It is fear and shame that locks the systems that marginalize us in place…

Ideally, people should stop using certain language because they have developed an understanding of why that language is oppressive, and how their use of it contributes to inequality and marginalization, and not because they are afraid or ashamed of confusing social repercussions they do not understand. What we need is a commitment to giving people clear explanations—be they angry, or impassioned, or blunt—of why their words or behavior are problematic, or upsetting, or damaging. We need to resist relying on comfortable jargon to call people out, and to ditch the erroneous presumption that making someone feel stupid will encourage them to read more about a subject. It doesn’t work. Fear and shame don’t help people to understand how the language we use and the actions we undertake, even in our own small individual spheres, all conspire to create a social environment that oppresses us. Fear breeds resentment and, sometimes, hatred. These are not things we need more of. These are the things that put us here in the first place.

Lesley Kinzel on calling people out on the language they use.

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